As women in the workforce, we know that words have the power to shape our experiences. The way we speak, the words we choose to use, and the tone in which we use them can all impact our professional success. Unfortunately, many of us still use language that undermines our authority, diminishes our accomplishments, and reinforces gender stereotypes. It's time to take a closer look at our vocabulary and remove some harmful words from our work lexicon.
First and foremost, we need to stop using diminutive language. Words like "just" and "only" may seem harmless, but they can undermine the importance of our ideas and accomplishments. When we say things like "I just wanted to follow up" or "I only have a few suggestions," we're implying that our input is less valuable than it really is. Instead, try removing these words from your vocabulary altogether. Use strong, confident language that demonstrates your expertise and authority.
Another word to avoid is "sorry." As women, we're often socialized to apologize for things that aren't our fault or that don't warrant an apology. We say sorry when someone bumps into us, when we're running a few minutes late, or even when we're asking a question. But apologizing unnecessarily can make us appear weak and unsure of ourselves. Instead of saying sorry, try using more assertive language. For example, instead of saying "Sorry to bother you," try "I have a question."
We also need to stop using gendered language. Words like "guys" and "mankind" may seem harmless, but they exclude women from the conversation. They reinforce the idea that men are the default gender and that women are an afterthought. Instead, try using gender-neutral language like "folks" or "everyone." This not only includes women in the conversation, but it also demonstrates that you're aware of and sensitive to gender issues.
It's also important to avoid using language that reinforces gender stereotypes. Words like "bossy" and "emotional" are often used to describe women in the workplace, while men are described as "assertive" and "confident." These words are not only inaccurate, but they can also be harmful. When we use language that reinforces these stereotypes, we're limiting ourselves and others. Instead, try using words that accurately describe behavior and actions, rather than gender.
Finally, we need to be aware of the power of our words in all aspects of our professional lives, including emails, meetings, and performance reviews. We should be using language that empowers ourselves and our colleagues, rather than tearing them down. We should be celebrating our accomplishments and the accomplishments of others, rather than minimizing them. And we should be using language that is inclusive, respectful, and empowering.
The words we use have a profound impact on our experiences in the workplace. By removing harmful words from our vocabulary and using strong, confident language instead, we can empower ourselves and our colleagues, challenge gender stereotypes, and create a more inclusive and supportive work environment.
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