Disclaimer: This article deals with sensitive and potentially triggering content related to domestic violence. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, please seek help immediately. Resources in Australia include 1800RESPECT, Lifeline, and local women's shelters and organisations.
Rachel experienced domestic violence that had a devastating impact on her career and personal life. With the help of supportive friends and family, she was able to overcome the trauma and rebuild her life. Today, she is a successful business owner and uses her experiences to help other survivors of domestic violence.
At SheThrive, we are committed to sharing stories of women who have overcome adversity and achieved success in their careers and personal lives. Today, we are honoured to share the story of Rachel, a survivor of domestic violence who has not only rebuilt her life but has also become a successful business owner and advocate for other survivors. We had the opportunity to speak with Rachel and learn more about her journey of career and personal development after overcoming domestic violence and rebuilding a successful career.
Interviewer: Can you tell us a bit about your career before?
Rachel: Before experiencing domestic violence, I had a successful career as a marketing manager at a large corporation. I loved my job and was very passionate about it.
Q: Can you share with us how your experience impacted your career?
Rachel: The impact was significant and far-reaching. It was a traumatic experience that affected every aspect of my life, including my career. It affected my ability to focus and perform at work, and I had to take time off to deal with the trauma. I also felt a lot of shame and embarrassment about what was happening in my personal life, which made it difficult to show up at work with confidence. There were times when I had to take time off work because of physical injuries or emotional distress or to attend court. There were also times when I couldn't concentrate on my work because I was constantly worried about my safety.
One incident that comes to mind is when my ex-partner showed up at my previous workplace and caused a scene. He was yelling and making a scene in front of my colleagues, which was incredibly embarrassing and made me feel like I couldn't show my face at work for a while. It was also difficult to focus on work after that incident because I was worried about what my colleagues thought of me.
Another incident that affected my career was when he destroyed some of my work equipment. I was working from home, and he came over uninvited and destroyed my laptop, printer, and other equipment. I had to spend money to replace them, and it was a setback for my past employer, finances and self-worth.
Interviewer: What support, if any, did you receive from your workplace during this time?
Rachel: I was lucky enough to have a supportive general manager who was understanding of my situation. They provided me with time off when I needed it, and were flexible with my schedule. They also connected me with a counsellor through our employee assistance program, which was incredibly helpful.
Interviewer: How did you manage to make a change in your career?
Rachel: After taking some time off to deal with the trauma and court cases, I realised that I wanted to take my career in a different direction. During the last 7 years, I have developed a strong sense of resilience and determination. And I used these qualities to start a consulting business in [information withheld at Rachel's request]. Taking control of my career and building a business on my own terms, has helped me to find a sense of empowerment and fulfilment.
Interviewer: Why do you think it's important to raise awareness about domestic violence?
Rachel: Domestic violence is a huge issue that affects so many people, yet it's often hidden behind closed doors. It's important to raise awareness about it so that survivors know that they're not alone and that there is help available. It's also important to educate people on the warning signs of domestic violence and how to intervene safely.
Interviewer: Do you have any advice for other survivors of domestic violence who are trying to rebuild their lives and careers?
Rachel: My advice would be to take it one day at a time and focus on your own healing first and to seek help as soon as possible. It's also important to seek out support from friends, family, and professionals who can help you along the way. And don't be afraid to ask for help or to reach out for resources - there are so many organisations and programs available to support survivors of domestic violence available in Australia, including 1800RESPECT, a 24/7 Australia-wide helpline for domestic violence and sexual assault, and local women's shelters and organisations that can provide support and assistance.
It's also important to prioritise your safety and well-being above your career. Don't hesitate to take time off work or seek flexible arrangements if needed. And remember, you are not alone. Many other survivors have gone through similar experiences and come out on the other side.
There is a common misconception that men who perpetrate violence can still be good fathers or partners. I think this is a dangerous myth that needs to be debunked. Men who are violent towards their partners are not good fathers or partners. Violence is not a one-off incident, it's a pattern of behaviour that can escalate over time.
Children who witness domestic violence are more likely to experience trauma and have long-term negative effects on their mental health and well-being. I have learned that one in six women in Australia has experienced physical or sexual violence from a current or former partner. It's important to educate ourselves and our communities about domestic violence and to support survivors in their journey to safety and healing.
Q: Lastly, what motivates you to help other survivors of domestic violence?
Rachel: Helping other survivors is my passion. I know firsthand how difficult it can be to navigate the aftermath of domestic violence, and I want to use my experiences to make a difference in other people's lives. Whether it's through sharing my story, volunteering, or starting my own business, I am committed to making a positive impact in the world.
Rachel's story is an inspiring example of resilience and determination in the face of adversity. We thank her for sharing her story with us
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Please note: This article deals with domestic violence. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, please reach out to 1800RESPECT (Australia) or your local domestic violence support organisation for help.
* Names and photos have been changed to protect the subject's anonymity where requested.